WHAT'S YOUR BLOODY PROBLEM MEN?

I get filled with intense hatred towards the society whenever I am confronted with its realities and paradoxes.
A nationwide opinion poll conducted for Hindustan Times and CNN-IBN threw up surprises. A staggering 70% people supported the decision of educational institutes banning students(girls) from wearing jeans and other western dresses. A whooping 80% thought that the incidents of rape and sexual harassment have increased because of the way women dress? Excuse me!
Were not the women raped during 1980s, 1960s, 1940s and even before? They were raped even in sarees and salwar suits. The point is that just because in those times the knowledge of these incidents was limited to local ambits because of no/insufficient media to cover them does not mean there were no crimes at all. Moreover, these incidents were suppressed to escape the scourge of society because rape was such a crime where the victim was harassed and perpetrators were let-off. But today, a local event becomes a national news and rape victims have started claiming justice.
All those who attribute increasing rapes to the way girls dress have an illusion. They think that girls who do not have any problem showing their belly-button or their skin are ‘open’ to it. And it is implicit that they are ‘inviting’ it. No, it is not implicit. They need to understand that rape is not sex. In fact this pretext is also used by the accused to get away with conviction. There have been prosecutions where the perpetrators claimed that they should be let-off because the girl was of loose moral character(which was judged by her clothes). So? Even if the girl is of loose characters, rape is rape. Rape is simply sex without consent, even if the girl is wearing her skirt upto her neck. Which part of that is difficult to understand?
My point is: please dissociate crimes with the freedom of girls. This tendency to attribute the behaviour of girls to increasing crimes and cover up the administrative lapses is disgusting!
But why do they link womans’ freedom to crimes at all? Maybe because the people want the girls to get back to what they were. Yes, the way and pace with which girls have adopted liberal behaviour in dressing and carrying themselves seem to threaten the reactionaries and the self-appointed moral custodians. These people who oppose social changes fear that if this ’phenomenon’ takes up unrelenting dimensions then their wives, daughters and daughters-in-law may stop being their servile servants. What if they start questioning the preposterous rules and orders imposed on them? What if they encroach in our area of authority, the authority which in our Indian society is the exclusive provision of males, and start taking their decisions themselves? What if they never asked for our consent? The most painful thing, right?
The paradox is some rules were made only for women. Until men went to pubs there was no problem at all with the society. It was absolutely normal and ok. But when women started doing the same, Mangalore pub incidents came up. And what an irony. These self-appointed moral custodians approve of their hooligan behaviour. I have seen men who, when get a glance of a girl smoking, making absurd statements like “It is wrong”. But a simple question is enough to make them numb. Just ask them: “What is wrong: Smoking cigarette or a girl smoking cigarette?”. I can bet that more than 95% of the boys have had the smoking experience at least once in their lives. Accept it or not but these non-uniform societal laws were made only to curb the freedom of women. And now when women have started defying them, there's only fear left for men!